Confused Christian 1 Be Reconciled

Or: Where’s My Red Pants?

Take necessary actions to be reconciled to others in a conflict situation.


  • Be a godly peacemaker and resolve personal conflict.
  • Understand genuine reconciliation;
  • always pursue genuine reconciliation in a conflict.


    In genuine reconciliation, there is no room for an unforgiving or unrepentant attitude.

    Forgiving Completely (Col. 3:12-15)

    12  Put on then, as God’s chosen ones, holy and beloved, compassionate hearts, kindness, humility, meekness, and patience,
    13  bearing with one another and, if one has a complaint against another, forgiving each other; as the Lord has forgiven you, so you also must forgive.
    14  And above all these put on love, which binds everything together in perfect harmony.
    15  And let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts, to which indeed you were called in one body. And be thankful.

    How should a believer dress spiritually?

    Just as you choose to dress in certain clothes each morning, it is a choice to put on forgiveness or any of the other virtues referred to.

    Forgiveness is not feelings (or emotions).
    Forgiveness isn’t in forgetting or excusing an offense either.
    Forgiveness comes from an act of the will to choose to forgive.

    The phrase “if anyone has a complaint against another” addresses the offended person, not the offender. Colossians 3:13 challenges the offended party to take initiative in reconciliation.
    how are believers commanded to forgive?

    The definition for the Greek word for forgiveness, implies “to put up with.” Considering this definition, how might this change your response to others?

    It means to not respond in a bad way to people who do you wrong. Forgiveness is an expression of grace. The issue is not on whether the person deserves it or not; forgiveness is the gift of grace.

    The Greek word translated here for “forgiving” and “forgiven” is related to the word for grace.

    Think about this: By letting the peace of the Messiah control our hearts, we are surrendering to Him in our behalf.

    Do you see the give and take in this transaction?


    • When there’s a conflict, don’t respond by doing something mean to get back at the person.
    • When you’re offended, quietly forgive, but make the first move to approach the one who did you wrong.


    Consider: Is it possible for someone to be offended and the offender never know it?
    We should politely approach them…

    2. What is your response to “forgiveness is a choice? ”
    Remember: Forgiveness is not feelings (or emotions). Forgiveness isn’t forgetting or excusing the offense.

    3. When you are challenged to forgive what is your greatest obstacle?
    Often it starts with self discipline to resist our anger, being at peace with one another.

    Romans 12:18:
    “If possible, on your part, live at peace with everyone.”


    In devotional times this week, reflect on these:

    • How will you make reconciliation a priority in your life?
    • What kind of commitment will you make today?

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